SparklingWaves
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The person that started the thread claims to be 17. I am talking about personal safety. You don't know who is behind a name, Shimmer.
Oral/Anal sex
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dollbabybex
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ok then some advise.... when u get past the initial pain of anal and your good to go
when theyre pulling out as in not pushing in (during humping)...i always feel scared i might poo... how do you get past that feeling?x
when theyre pulling out as in not pushing in (during humping)...i always feel scared i might poo... how do you get past that feeling?x
Shimmer
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I'm fully aware of that.
Age of Consent.
Also, at no point in time is anyone telling the OP, or anyone else, to do anything. No one is being encouraged or discouraged from any action, other than actions that are or could be specifically harmful.
I will not treat people or adolescents like they don't have questions and ideas about sex. To do so is a disservice to them and blindly naive.
Questions people (particularly young people) may have about sex, yes even my own children, I believe should be answered as honestly and candidly as possible. I would rather flippantly give good information to a 15, 16, or 17 year old than seriously give bad information.
I don't promote, nor do I condone, unsafe behavior. I am also not unrealistic enough to believe that the information won't be obtained via one source or another.
I would rather have an open, candid, and humorous atmosphere where questions can be answered than have to deal with people trolling myspace and other sites like it for the information they receive on sex.
Age of Consent.
Also, at no point in time is anyone telling the OP, or anyone else, to do anything. No one is being encouraged or discouraged from any action, other than actions that are or could be specifically harmful.
I will not treat people or adolescents like they don't have questions and ideas about sex. To do so is a disservice to them and blindly naive.
Questions people (particularly young people) may have about sex, yes even my own children, I believe should be answered as honestly and candidly as possible. I would rather flippantly give good information to a 15, 16, or 17 year old than seriously give bad information.
I don't promote, nor do I condone, unsafe behavior. I am also not unrealistic enough to believe that the information won't be obtained via one source or another.
I would rather have an open, candid, and humorous atmosphere where questions can be answered than have to deal with people trolling myspace and other sites like it for the information they receive on sex.
Shimmer
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Breath. And go slow. And, relax.
It's a natural tendency as a female to tense up, so breathing through and relaxing take a bit of thought, but once you're past that initial feeling, it's quite enjoyable.
Originally Posted by dollbabybex
ok then some advise.... when u get past the initial pain of anal and your good to go when theyre pulling out as in not pushing in (during humping)...i always feel scared i might poo... how do you get past that feeling?x |
Breath. And go slow. And, relax.
It's a natural tendency as a female to tense up, so breathing through and relaxing take a bit of thought, but once you're past that initial feeling, it's quite enjoyable.
SparklingWaves
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I need the reminder myself. I forget.
SparklingWaves
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Question - Shimmer - How would you know who they really are? I am not saying this person. I am saying how safe is the board. Can't someone just stick an old looking picture of a woman and actually be some pervert?
Trunkmonkey
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Please tell me you're kidding. This is the mentality of what is commonly known as the 'sheepole'. The kind of being that depends on a benevolent leader that cares for the masses and thinks about their feelings. Problem is this is the intardnet. A free flowing entity where self expression is allowed and welcomed. If someone who is underage and should not be exposed to this discussion is on this board that is up to their parents to decide not society as a whole. If you look up at the top of the forum and when you post "Love & Relationships This forum is private, register to view. Explicit discussions about sex and relationships may not be appropriate for all members. Please keep this warning in mind if you are under 18, visiting Specktra from work, or have an aversion to explicit conversations between adults while viewing this sub-forum." So far this has been an open, honest, and rather interesting discussion of sexual interaction between two consenting adults. What, exactly, is wrong with that? If it makes you uncomfortable D O N T R E A D I T. Or do read it and educate yourself. Oh shit.. I jumped out of the trunk before they pushed the button. Here comes the ball gag and gimp hood. DAMMIT!!!!!
| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
The person that started the thread claims to be 17. I am talking about personal safety. You don't know who is behind a name, Shimmer. |
Please tell me you're kidding. This is the mentality of what is commonly known as the 'sheepole'. The kind of being that depends on a benevolent leader that cares for the masses and thinks about their feelings. Problem is this is the intardnet. A free flowing entity where self expression is allowed and welcomed. If someone who is underage and should not be exposed to this discussion is on this board that is up to their parents to decide not society as a whole. If you look up at the top of the forum and when you post "Love & Relationships This forum is private, register to view. Explicit discussions about sex and relationships may not be appropriate for all members. Please keep this warning in mind if you are under 18, visiting Specktra from work, or have an aversion to explicit conversations between adults while viewing this sub-forum." So far this has been an open, honest, and rather interesting discussion of sexual interaction between two consenting adults. What, exactly, is wrong with that? If it makes you uncomfortable D O N T R E A D I T. Or do read it and educate yourself. Oh shit.. I jumped out of the trunk before they pushed the button. Here comes the ball gag and gimp hood. DAMMIT!!!!!
dollbabybex
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i guess they could but when i want filth i dont come straight to specktra...
surely they are more likely to be on facebook/faceparty/myspace etc
i do understand your concerns...but i doubt a mac website screams 'perverts paradise'
| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
Question - Shimmer - How would you know who they really are? I am not saying this person. I am saying how safe is the board. Can't someone just stick an old looking picture of a woman and actually be some pervert? |
i guess they could but when i want filth i dont come straight to specktra...
surely they are more likely to be on facebook/faceparty/myspace etc
i do understand your concerns...but i doubt a mac website screams 'perverts paradise'
Shimmer
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This forum (specifically) is locked to non registered viewers.
If a pervert is reading this thread and getting off to it, there's really not much any of us can do.
Mods on this site (myself included) are fairly diligent about removing personal information, email, etc. from posts.
I would suspect the FOTD/Tutorial forum or the Clearance Bin/Swap forums would actually be more inviting to people ready and willing to stalk the members of this site, as more identifying information, including pictures, is posted within those forums.
Quite seriously this is one of the most tame discussions regarding sex I've seen on a message board, ever.
If a pervert is reading this thread and getting off to it, there's really not much any of us can do.
Mods on this site (myself included) are fairly diligent about removing personal information, email, etc. from posts.
I would suspect the FOTD/Tutorial forum or the Clearance Bin/Swap forums would actually be more inviting to people ready and willing to stalk the members of this site, as more identifying information, including pictures, is posted within those forums.
Quite seriously this is one of the most tame discussions regarding sex I've seen on a message board, ever.
thestarsfall
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What does it matter? If they are a pervert and coming to Specktra then they are wasting their time really....there are plenty of porn sites on the internet.
| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
Question - Shimmer - How would you know who they really are? I am not saying this person. I am saying how safe is the board. Can't someone just stick an old looking picture of a woman and actually be some pervert? |
What does it matter? If they are a pervert and coming to Specktra then they are wasting their time really....there are plenty of porn sites on the internet.
wolfsong
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For all the humourous comments made, people have actually given sound advice about safety - i think answering questions in this laidback way means people listen more than if they were given it as an equivalent of a PG13 PSA. Children of 11 are having sex and getting pregnant nowadays - its horrifying, but it doesnt mean its not happening. You cant bury your head in the sand about people doing things like this if you click onto the thread, and in all fairness there is nothing wrong with oral or anal sex - its just deemed wrong by a very outdated/ignorant society. You wouldnt expect men who are in a relationship with each other to be celibate would you?
There is a warning before you click into this forum section for a reason - and if this doesnt work the words 'anal' and 'oral' in the thread title should.
As for perverts - who says you arent talking to the female kind
There is a warning before you click into this forum section for a reason - and if this doesnt work the words 'anal' and 'oral' in the thread title should.
As for perverts - who says you arent talking to the female kind
SparklingWaves
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Well, it's it in the news how people share details about themselves on the net and then turn up missing. Here people are sharing explicit how to details and have pictures of themselves on the net, etc. That's all. Sorry for interrupting. I was worried for people's safety. That's all. End. I will not disturb again. I was a member of another form and we did that, so I guess this is a taboo thing to do here. Yes, I saw the sign. I know what it means, but still. I was thinking of the those that were spilling their personal info. for your entertainment, education, etc. Go ahead - Spill all your info if it doesn't matter then. I am sorry, but I happen to care. Bye
| Originally Posted by thestarsfall
What does it matter? If they are a pervert and coming to Specktra then they are wasting their time really....there are plenty of porn sites on the internet. |
Well, it's it in the news how people share details about themselves on the net and then turn up missing. Here people are sharing explicit how to details and have pictures of themselves on the net, etc. That's all. Sorry for interrupting. I was worried for people's safety. That's all. End. I will not disturb again. I was a member of another form and we did that, so I guess this is a taboo thing to do here. Yes, I saw the sign. I know what it means, but still. I was thinking of the those that were spilling their personal info. for your entertainment, education, etc. Go ahead - Spill all your info if it doesn't matter then. I am sorry, but I happen to care. Bye
Shimmer
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Wolfsong:
Absolutely re: safety. There's no way to emphasize that enough, and if people are adamant about it enough so that it sinks in, maybe we'll stop having fifth and sixth graders having sex.
So, to reiterate...
Don't go bareback unless you're in a monogamous relationship...and even then, glove up unless you're actively planning on having a child.
Never do anything with anyone you're not 100% prepared to do, and 100% able to face the consequences of.
Never be forced into a situation based on someone else's wants or desires.
Never be forced into doing something simply for the sake of doing it.
Take charge of your own sexuality.
Masturbate. Figure out what you like and how you like it. If you don't know, no one else can either.
Filling the hole between your legs won't fill the hole in your soul. If you don't love yourself, no one else can or will.
Respect yourself. Don't use sex as a validation or an affirmation of your identity.
Just because they want to have sex with you doesn't mean they respect you, or even like you. Don't have sex with someone you're not prepared to deal with on one basis or another for the rest of your life. If you get pregnant, you'll have to deal with each other.
If you do get pregnant, you'll be the one dealing with it. He can 'be there' for you, whatever...you're the one going through the hormone shifts and body changes. You'll be the one giving birth, lactating, and dealing with PPD. Not him.
Sex isn't a lifetime commitment, but it should be fun.
Don't fake it. You're only hurting yourself if you do. Faking it doesn't get you closer to what you want, and it doesn't teach him a damn thing about how to make you feel good.
Absolutely re: safety. There's no way to emphasize that enough, and if people are adamant about it enough so that it sinks in, maybe we'll stop having fifth and sixth graders having sex.
So, to reiterate...
Don't go bareback unless you're in a monogamous relationship...and even then, glove up unless you're actively planning on having a child.
Never do anything with anyone you're not 100% prepared to do, and 100% able to face the consequences of.
Never be forced into a situation based on someone else's wants or desires.
Never be forced into doing something simply for the sake of doing it.
Take charge of your own sexuality.
Masturbate. Figure out what you like and how you like it. If you don't know, no one else can either.
Filling the hole between your legs won't fill the hole in your soul. If you don't love yourself, no one else can or will.
Respect yourself. Don't use sex as a validation or an affirmation of your identity.
Just because they want to have sex with you doesn't mean they respect you, or even like you. Don't have sex with someone you're not prepared to deal with on one basis or another for the rest of your life. If you get pregnant, you'll have to deal with each other.
If you do get pregnant, you'll be the one dealing with it. He can 'be there' for you, whatever...you're the one going through the hormone shifts and body changes. You'll be the one giving birth, lactating, and dealing with PPD. Not him.
Sex isn't a lifetime commitment, but it should be fun.
Don't fake it. You're only hurting yourself if you do. Faking it doesn't get you closer to what you want, and it doesn't teach him a damn thing about how to make you feel good.
dollbabybex
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were not disregarding what your saying but at the same time we have to take responsibility of our own actions...
i personally think its more of a worry when people say where they work (some do) or if i was silly enough to say 'im goin shopping in cardiff town centre tomo' etc etc
not i like it up the bum...
| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
Well, it's it in the news how people share details about themselves on the net and then turn up missing. Here people are sharing explicit how to details and have pictures of themselves on the net, etc. That's all. Sorry for interrupting. I was worried for people's safety. That's all. End. I will not disturb again. I was a member of another form and we did that, so I guess this is a taboo thing to do here. Yes, I saw the sign. I know what it means, but still. I was thinking of the those that were spilling their personal info. for your entertainment, education, etc. Go ahead - Spill all your info if it doesn't matter then. I am sorry, but I happen to care. Bye |
were not disregarding what your saying but at the same time we have to take responsibility of our own actions...
i personally think its more of a worry when people say where they work (some do) or if i was silly enough to say 'im goin shopping in cardiff town centre tomo' etc etc
not i like it up the bum...
Janice
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Everyone here appreciates your concern. Really, it's very sweet and endearing and speaks volumes about you as a person. It's appropriate for you to share your warning with others so they can choose to heed it if they wish. Just as we respect your warning, we must also respect the people who wish to hold the discussion. Please if the thread disturbs you, click out of it. I value having you here and would rather you just click off the thread and visit another part of the site that you feel more comfortable with than tune out of the site as a whole.
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| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
Well, it's it in the news how people share details about themselves on the net and then turn up missing. Here people are sharing explicit how to details and have pictures of themselves on the net, etc. That's all. Sorry for interrupting. I was worried for people's safety. That's all. End. I will not disturb again. I was a member of another form and we did that, so I guess this is a taboo thing to do here. Yes, I saw the sign. I know what it means, but still. I was thinking of the those that were spilling their personal info. for your entertainment, education, etc. Go ahead - Spill all your info if it doesn't matter then. I am sorry, but I happen to care. Bye |
wolfsong
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Its okay to express concern for others - and it came from a good place. However, you cant track someone down by their sexual preferences. Any member on here could see a photo of someone in the FOTD, then read about them liking anal sex. Yes they may be a sick prevert that wants to do terrible things to that person, but how will they find them with no info anymore personal to them than their state and occasionally a real first name (unless someone wants to play with fire)? You could come across people like that in the street - and that happens regularly in this world. This shouldnt stop you from leaving your house.
I agree its up to the parents to monitor their children - we shouldnt feel the need to censor ourselves on the off chance jailbait has snuck in.
I agree its up to the parents to monitor their children - we shouldnt feel the need to censor ourselves on the off chance jailbait has snuck in.
dollbabybex
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summed up perfectly
now lets get back to talking about filth! only joking
| Originally Posted by Janice
Everyone here appreciates your concern. Really, it's very sweet and endearing and speaks volumes about you as a person. It's appropriate for you to share your warning with others so they can choose to heed it if they wish. Just as we respect your warning, we must also respect the people who wish to hold the discussion. Please if the thread disturbs you, click out of it. I value having you here and would rather you just click off the thread and visit another part of the site that you feel more comfortable with than tune out of the site as a whole.
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summed up perfectly
now lets get back to talking about filth! only joking
GreekChick
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Question about anal sex:
If a woman cannot climax through penetration, and prefers clitoral stimulation, is it possible for her to enjoy, if not, have an orgasm through anal sex?
If a woman cannot climax through penetration, and prefers clitoral stimulation, is it possible for her to enjoy, if not, have an orgasm through anal sex?
